Almost everyone at some point in their life had a co-worker or a boss who was difficult to get along with (or just downright hateable). At its core, a professional relationship between two people isn’t really different than a friendship or a romantic relationship with someone - other than the fact that it feels forced because you both need to be there for other reasons like having to pay your bills. And when we recognize this, we have tremendous opportunity to grow in our professional lives by treating these office problems as the interpersonal problems they truly are.
There’s no need to let one person spoil your entire professional life. There are several things you can do to fix the relationship and maybe even help the person who has been antagonizing you.
While you can always leave your job, and sometimes that’s the right decision, often times it may serve your needs more to find a better way to work through the problem rather than uproot yourself every time you’ve got a difficult boss or co-worker. After all, you might love your job and the work you do, and your work enemy may just be a friend that you haven’t been able to reach yet.
When I’m coaching my clients, I have a few simple strategies that help them get past problems with coworkers or at least understand the relationship better so they can reduce their own personal frustration that way.
Following these 4 steps will not only dramatically improve your own mood and performance at work, but they can make you the one responsible for improving and repairing the entire culture of your employer.
Your life coach.