Can you have it all?

You can't "have it all" if you don't have your own blueprint figured out.

News of Amazon CEO and future world overlord Jeff Bezos and his wife getting a divorce is splashed all over the front page of the news today.

While I’m not a coach to either member of the marriage, we can be fairly certain that in spite of the marriage ending and their friendship continuing, neither planned to get divorced 25 years into their marriage.

Women in America are very familiar with how difficult it can be to "have it all" in today's world. Men too are learning the difficulty of being excellent in their career, great as a lover and partner, spiritually fulfilled, awesomely physically fit, and an amazing dad on top of it all.

Having it all is a lot of work.
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A young Kanye West once summed it up when he wrote “I don’t know what’s better, getting laid or getting paid, I just know that when I’m getting one the other’s getting away.” 

What do you value more? Connection or achievement? (there's no wrong answer)

Like Kanye points out, life is going to pull you in many different directions and the only way for you to be happy is to be firm in your values and desires and to organize your time and efforts appropriately. Check and recheck where you are succeeding and where you are failing.

I can only imagine the amount of time Jeff Bezos invests into his work - it can’t be easy to run the biggest company in the world. Thinking of the high achieving people in my life, I’m aware of the sacrifices they make and often their partners and kids are forced to make alongside them.

Of course I make no judgments about any couple that decides to amicably move on (it is possible that relationships don't end and instead just change from romantic to friendly). More importantly than rushing to judgment is to realize that when we are flourishing in one area of our lives (Jeff Bezos has almost taken over the world via Amazon), we may be neglecting or falling short in other important aspects of our lives like our family relationships, our friends, our physical fitness, or in our romantic lives.

As a coach, one of the first things I want to know about a person is where they are thriving and where they are drowning. Almost everyone has something they are doing well at and conversely everyone has an area of their life that needs immediate attention.

So what about you?

Are you ascending the corporate ladder while your spouse feels neglected at home? Are you an awesome parent that is forgetting to connect with your spouse? Are you great at home but stalled out on your career goals?

It’s entirely possible that Jeff Bezos, or someone with equal ambition, wants to work 100 hours a week and being single is the best path to live according to his own blueprint. It is also possible that high achieving people like Mr. Bezos start to take the other things in life for granted and end up on top of the world with a pile of money all alone by mistake and a lack of planning and strategy.

Think about your blueprint and feel free to message me or comment your successes and struggles.
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And of course feel free to schedule a time for us to get some clarity together: https://my.timetrade.com/book/6LFQG

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